January 22, 2022
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Is consent in a relationship a topic we should be worried about?

Going out with someone or being in a relationship can make you feel many different things like happiness, nervousness, excitement and love. Sometimes it can also be confusing, especially when it comes to intimacy and sex. Intimacy is when two people become physically, sexually and/or emotionally close.

It can be hard to know if the person you’re with wants to be more intimate with you or not. Sometimes it’s hard to ask or find out how the other person is feeling. It was easy on the previous generations where the cultural divisions made people aware of what other people from those cultures wanted. Some would call it now an ignorant stretch as individualism has been growing and stereo typing has been used to pull us apart. In all the generational gap and change in society  it’s important than ever that the person you’re with gives their consent to any level of intimacy you have with them. Despite where they come from or how you think you know them.

 Consent and intimate relationships

Consent is when one person agrees or gives permission to another person to do something. It means agreeing to an action based on your knowledge of what that action involves; its possible consequences and having the option of saying no.

When it comes to sex in your relationship consent is really important. It’s important to remember that both of you have a responsibility to make sure that you both feel safe and comfortable every step along the way. Remember, your actions towards the person you’re with can greatly affect the way they feel about you, themselves, the relationship, and sex in general. How ever some might say consent can be fluid and circumstantial, making it hard to really know who wants what as some relationships are driven by a mood than verbal communication.

Why is it important to make sure that the person you’re with has given consent?

It’s important that you are sure that the person you’re with is happy and comfortable, because non- consensual sexual activity (anything from touching and kissing to penetration) is against the law. The punishments for sexual assault are severe. Not only is it a crime, but the emotional consequences of rape and sexual assault can last a lifetime.

The only way to know for sure if someone has given consent is if they tell you. But some may ask, what if the person they are with is not a big talker, what should they do? And of course that is true some people prefer being spontaneous and play with the moment and by all means avoid any verbal communication, making it hard to know what they want or don’t want.

To some people communication is easy. Telling your partner what they want comes naturally. Sadly even in that type of communication comes with hiccups. Often men think when a women is aroused its a licence for penetration, but sometimes women can be aroused physically but mentally not wanting sex. This is called AROUSAL IN-CONGRUENCE, when a person is led to sex by physical arousal whilst they mentally don’t want to. Knowing these makes the consent part more difficult and having more reason to be talked about more, to make people aware.

This is a discussion we have to have and the more we talk about it the more people are aware. And as much as not everyone of us is in an intimate relationship, this is still something we should all be knowing. Lets here in the comments below what you guys think about this topic.


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